From childhood, you begin to notice that each child has their own unique personality but it is said that between the ages of 3-5, a child's personality starts to be formed. Parents and the environment in which children are raised also are major influences on the type of personality that they would eventually grow up with. It is important for parents to ensure that their child is raised in a loving, caring and positive environment as this will help them to learn and understand what love really means.
It is known that majority of the physical and mental aspects of their personality are formed during the early stages of childhood. This makes it very important for parents, guardians and teachers to pay very close attention to children and contribute their best as their personalities are developed.
Here are few personality development tips for kids that parents and teachers can put into practice.
- Guide the child: Children are faced with lots of challenges at the early stage of understanding good from bad. Sometimes, they do not know how to make the right decisions. The best way to help them out at this stage is to guide them. They need your support and guidance as they move through the ups and downs of life. It is also important to know that each child is unique and you should approach them differently, therefore it is necessary to discover and understand the best way to handle them. You should also show them constant love and
care as this will help them develop a confident and loving personality.
Healthy personality development of the child is helped by loving parents and understanding teachers who encourage the individual strengths and needs of children.
- Learn to listen to the child: As a parent or teacher, for you to help in the personality development of your children, you should learn how to pay attention to their needs. When you give your child attention, they enjoy staying with you. Always listen to their concerns and always try to hear them out as this gives them a high sense of importance. This greatly boosts their strength and confidence.
- Punish your child lovingly: You will need to learn how to chastise your children while also showing them love. You do not need to be abusive or violent before the punishment would make meaning. To ensure that the punishment achieves its objectives, make it a point of duty to always explain the difference between right and wrong. You should also explain why you don't accept their wrong behaviour and the effect it could have on them in the future.
- Lay down rules: You should have laid down rules which they are to follow. This will help in establishing a healthy communication flow between you and the child. It would also strengthen the parent - child bond. Without rules, the child may feel there is no restriction to misbehaviour but they serve as reminders of the repercussions of bad behaviour. Rules are good and help keep children in check. Remember also that when enforcing these rules, do it lovingly not as pay back to the child but emphasize the point that children who break the rules must be ready to face the consequences.
- Always set an Example: As a parent or teacher, you will need to be an example to your child. Children easily follow the examples they see often so you need to show them the right behaviour always. It is easier to live by example than talking several times. They will observe the way you live, the way you talk and eventually them into practise. You should careful of this when you are with them at home or even outside as they have a retentive memory.
- Encourage Play: You need to know that play has great influence on a child's personality. You help your child's personality blossom
when you give enough play time. Encourage play time as this gives them opportunity to enjoy themselves and have fun together. It has a positive effect on them, emotionally, mentally and physically. Play helps children work in groups, develop their imaginations and take on different roles. It helps them learn how to: stand up for themselves, create things, explore and lead.
- Avoid labeling your child: It is best that your child's personality develops on its own without being shaped by your opinions and views. This can be achieved if you avoid labeling them as timid, stubborn or bossy. Don't call them names that are not nice as this could affect them psychologically, rather support and encourage them as they develop their own unique personality.
It is better to let children discover themselves while you provide guidance to them. Sometimes, you may want your children to be exactly like you but this is not best approach. It is better you allow the child face life in their own way. You can provide guidance by giving counsel and advice, encouraging to read, teaching how to be of good behaviour but you cannot force them to become like you. This, most times, leads to friction and rebellion on the part of the child.
- Accept their shortcomings: Another point that helps in the personality development of children is the need to accept their shortcomings. Sometimes, we develop unrealistic expectations for our children. It is better if we keep expectations that are realistic and allow our children develop in their own way. We can do this by encouraging them in what they do best as this will push them to do better and excel. It is better to focus on their strengths than their weaknesses.
- Learn new methods: As parents and teachers, we need to review our approach to the upbringing of our children. It is important that we review and learn new skills that would help us in taking care of our children. We should also assess the impact our approach and behaviour is having on our children and where we may need to adjust.
- Make your children a priority: Parents and teachers should make it a priority to raise our children up in the right way. Our influences go a long way in shaping their personality for life so we must take our responsibilities very seriously.