Personality development is the process of developing attributes, attitudes and behaviour. Every individual has their unique personality that distinguishes them from other people. These attributes or unique personality may have been may have developed in the individual through different processes. There a lot of influences that shape our personality right from our childhood and as we grow to become adults. Our experiences, mistakes and successes also play a role in determining how our personality will evolves. As we move from the childhood stage, we become responsible for the type of personality that is formed in us. We can change whatever we do not like about ourselves and make improvements where necessary.
Theory on Personality DevelopmentThe subject of personality development is broad and there have been studies on various aspects of it. An example of one of this theory is the Piaget's Theory of Cognitive Development.
- Piaget's Theory
His theory has been criticized over the years but it is one of the most cited theories on personality development. His theory highlighted the fact that children are different from adults. He stated that children go through a 4-stage process which is marked by very distinct changes in the way they think. These stages are:
The Sensorimotor stage (birth - 2 years): At this stage, infants and toddlers acquire knowledge through sensory experiences
and by manipulating objects. As he observed his own daughter and nephew, this concept was conceived. The child's intelligence consists of their basic motor and sensory experiences of the world.
The Preoperational stage: At this stage, children learn through play but struggle with logic and accepting the views of other people. They also may struggle with the understanding of constancy.
The Concrete Operational stage: At this stage, they begin to think more logically but may still be rigid. They also struggle with abstract or hypothetical concepts. Here, they begin to gain understanding that not everyone has to share their thoughts, feelings and opinions.
The Formal Operational stage: At this point, they may become able to use deductive reasoning and understand abstract ideas.
He also emphasized that as children grow, their intellectual development process is more qualitative than quantitative. The other factors Piaget stated that influence the way children learn and grow include: assimilation, schemas, accommodation and equilibration.
Things to do to enhance Personality DevelopmentListen more
Individuals who learn to listen to others have well-developed personalities that attract others to share intimate things with them. Most times, people desire to make them their confidants because they pay close attention and seem interested in helping others. These few tips would help you: Ensure that you maintain eye contact when in discussion with someone; be open minded; try not to interrupt the speaker; you can ask question to make sure you understand what is being said.
Expand your interests and acquire more knowledge
As you make efforts to develop a personality that will draw the attention of people, one thing you can do to achieve this is to expand your knowledge by acquiring relevant information. Knowledge is power and those who know more than others will lead them. You can acquire knowledge by: reading a wide range of materials; asking questions when you don't know something; meeting new people; search the internet.
Learn how to start a good conversation
The ability to communicate properly and effectively helps as you try to build your personality. You should know how to think clearly and express your thoughts so that anyone listening to you will understand it. Many people find it difficult to start conversations. There are a few tricks that
can help you start a good conversation with anyone: show the person, it maybe a stranger or an acquaintance that you care about their opinion; use their names while talking; listen carefully; ask questions without interrogating the person; throw in one or two jokes; ask open ended questions which allows people elaborate more on their point; don't ask anything that may make the speaker uncomfortable; don't talk so much about yourself; pay attention to details.
Learn how to restrain yourself from doing wrong. This is a good quality that will enhance your personality. It helps you to forgive easily, avoid fights and all forms of violence. This quality will show people that you have a humble nature and this will help you not to act wrongly when you are angry. It is one of the six virtues in positive psychology classifications.
Show love to others
Anyone who is interested in the good of others easily makes friends. People attracted to love. It is a good quality. Love is shown by caring and thinking about the progress of others before yours. It puts others first before self.
Be joyful always
Being joyful relieves stress and the fear of the unknown. Joy is the feeling of great pleasure from within. It is not happiness. A joyful person is always cheerful and amiable. Such a person is not easily distracted by trouble or pressures of life. It is a state of a mind that is settled, confident and hopeful. Material things do not make a person joyful. This trait helps individuals face the daily struggles of life without getting stressed and you know stress sometimes leads too sickness.
This is the ability to accept delays and setbacks in the course of daily living. It also means being able to hold your temper when provoked. Individuals who are able to stay calm regardless of the challenges they face have learnt how to be patient. It is not easy to be a patient person but you can learn it. It will keep strong in times of great difficulty. It pays to allow things work out by itself.
Have your values
People with no value system will do anything and live anyhow. Values are important as they determine how far we can go in life. An individual who has the right values will never do anything bad to another person. In his career, he obeys the rules of organisation; he is faithful in relationships and business dealings. Values distinguishes and enhances the personality of an individual.